Nature v. Nuture?

Family IS important!

   For a long time, the "thinkers" have debated the question of nature v. nuture.  Well, in the last almost six years, I have seen some powerful evidence for nuture.  I have seen kids who were despised by their parent or parents (and I mean that only in the biological sense since not many of them EVER qualified to actually parent anything more than a small toadstool).  These kids who grow up without love are angry and/or detached.  They have no ability to love themselves or anyone else.  They cause trouble because in the end, any attention is good even if it is bad attention.  They turn to drugs and/or alcohol to ease the pain inside and they will never really understand what their problem is and where it started.  I have seen kids born to drug or alcohol addicted parents who, when CPS stepped in and took their kids away, grew "a pair" and did the right things.  They never blamed their kids for their problems, always managed to let the kids know that 1) they were loved; 2) Mommy and/or Daddy would be back; and 3) that they (the kids) were VERY important to them and everyone else.  Granted, these parents are more rare in the messed up world of Juvenile Court but I thank God, everytime I run into one.  It restores my faith in humanity.  Second argument for nuture over nature.  A friend of mine has adopted two wonderful children after dependencies went south and the parents rights were severed.  One child was born to a drug addicted mother who never acted like she loved her baby and this child after having grown up in a wonderful loving home is kind, thoughtful, smart, etc just like her adopted parents.  The second child was born to a parent who didn't have sense to do anything right (elevator doesn't go to the top floor) and this child is a gifted math student who's teachers can't keep him challenged enough. 

I say:   NUTURE!!!!

I wanna be de judge....

Otherwise known as the judge or the person in the "black dress"




I have decided that I want to be a judge.  I know that I am currently just a "flunky" with clients who lie to me or clients who haven't decided if smoking dope is worse than going to high school but...really, how hard could it be?  Walk in and everyone has to stand up....I sit down and tell everyone else that they can sit down.  Everyone has to defer to me and call me "your honor".  You can't interrupt me (as the judge) or I can tell you to shut up, yell at you or if I get really testy, fine you or put you in jail.  I don't have to be right, I just have to sound like I am right.  I don't have to be polite because....I am the judge and I can put you in jail if I feel like it.  If I decide that I want to go on vacation, I just don't schedule things during that time or if I decide that your hearing is inconvenient, I just tell my JAA (judicial admin. asst) to reschedule it.  I can take as long or as short a time with your case as I want and you can't do anything about it...cuz I'm the judge.