Plea for Families!

Why can't we love our children and raise them the way they should be raised??













    Ok, I am taking a break (sort of) from my blogging about my cases and adventures in court.  I have been dealing with the death of my mother and going through her stuff in the house I grew up in.  I realize (or I should say "re-realize") what a wonderful mother she was!  She saved EVERYTHING that her children EVER gave her and then she also saved EVERYTHING her grandchildren EVER gave her!  Even my kids looked at some of the scribbles and wondered why Grandma would save that.  My answer was invariably "because you gave it to her and she treasured it."  I remember the times that I was not getting along with her as a hormonal teenage girl and I would complain to my friends about her.  My friends, without exception, would roll their eyes and tell me that they would kill to have a mom like mine and I should be glad I had her as my mom (and I was VERY MUCH SO).  I remember joking with my parents (back more than 20...um...or so...years ago) that they had "ruined my life" because they were 1) still married to each other; and 2) very happily so.  Little did I realize how prophetic that joke would be....

    Now, being married to the father of your child(ren) is rare.  Being married to the father of your children for an extended period of time is rarer.  Being happily married to that same person is even more rare.  That is plain PATHETIC!!!  However, that is the reason that I will probably always have a contract at Juvenile Court!  Women and men randomly have sex and don't even consider whether or not a child will result from that some seven minutes of fun.  Nor do they consider whether or not they even WANT to have a child with that person nor whether or not that person is someone worthy that the child who will ultimately look up to as a role model is worthy of that respect.  And those.....are the people who are peopling this planet!  These are the people who are "raising" (and I use that term VERY LOOSELY) the next generation.  They are creating a vicious circle of people who are raised without love and no basis in the basic human values and those people who then go out and make bad decisions about having kids....and so on....

   I was privileged to be raised by two wonderful people who weren't perfect but they instilled the appropriate human values and loved me despite my hormonal teenage rants.  I will miss my parents (more than I can say and the pain of this second loss is excruciating) but I was very blessed.  I wish everyone was equally as blessed but sadly...not so much!