WTF!!!!!

  Ok, I have always had a problem with child abuse (both physical and sexual!).  Ever since my prosecutor days....not that anyone would or could condone child abuse but I'm not sure that everyone "gets" abuse.   I think that everyone understands physical abuse.  Bruises are bad!  However, psychological or emotional abuse is much different!  Not because it is condoned or accepted but because it is much harder to prove....  How do you prove that a child has been "psychologically damaged or abused when there are 'no marks'?  It is a sad fact that today's children are being abused without even being touched...or because they aren't being touched!  Children need to be hugged and touched (appropriately) to let them know that they are loved and cared for.  Of course, that doesn't even acknowledge those children who are 'being touched' "inappropriately" and are being taught that those touches ARE appropriate!  Those girls who are "awakened" prematurely and have no idea what an appropriate loving gesture is!

So, what does that have to do with the cases at hand??  Well, we have two cases which involve abuse.  One where the abuse is physical and the mother doesn't have anything to say about it because, as I predict....she is abused herself and has NO clue about what appropriate behavior is like.  Ok, so I don't like the a*#!% hole who is her boyfriend...I still think, based on her behavior, that she is abused herself.

Second case involves a guardian who is the grandma.  G-ma is guardian for her grandkids whom CPS took away from their mom for drug abuse.  However, as the wheel turns, G-ma had CPS get involved because her boyfriend / husband sexually abused her (G-ma's) daughter.   Now, as the wheel turns again, G-ma's new husband has sexually abused the granddaughters.   What does that say?  1) Sexual abuse is generational; and 2) one "in denial", "always in denial".  

OMFG!!  I hate to revert to my child sexual/physical abuse prosecutor days and say "no one should have kids until they pass a test" but...."no one should have kids or take care of kids until they pass a test" because otherwise, we are just passing on the "screwed up mentality"!

"Just saying"......